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There is a phase in childhood development that could be classified as the Why?-phase.

“Mommy, why do we have bees?”

“So the flowers can be pollinated.”


“Because if the blossoms aren’t pollinated, we couldn’t have fruits and vegetables.”


“And we wouldn’t have honey either,” you respond, trying to break the cycle.


“Because bees make honey.”




This type of inquisitive “why” phase is actually remarkably healthy. It encourages our natural curiosity and creativity to flourish. As we grow older, we tend to stop asking why. We tend to be more concerned about fitting in or doing what everyone else is doing rather than really discovering what is best for us individually.

Asking “why” when setting goals or evaluating our health and wellness is particularly helpful. We often tend to set arbitrary goals. For example, “I will workout for 30 minutes five times a day.” The goal itself is great. But what is going to keep you motivated?

It is the WHY

Why are you going to workout for 30 minutes five times a day? 

I am choosing to workout for 30 minutes five times a day because I want to maintain a long and healthy life – not limited by age or poor health.

Why is that important to you?

This is important to me because self-care is one of my core values. I value myself. 

Why do you enjoy a particular activity?

I feel energized when I exercise. I feel a surge of creative energy – and that is a positive force that I want repetitively present in my life.

The closer we can associate a choice or a goal with a meaningful “why,” the more successful we become.

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